Typically, the child with learning or attention problems is quite aware she has trouble with schoolwork. Children tend to “generalize” their challenges with school work to their overall abilities. So, even though a child may perform well on non-academic tasks, if she struggles with learning, she may make statements like, “I can’t do anything right!” or “I’m a failure.”
Helping your child understand the difference between her difficulties and her potential is the first step toward improving self-esteem.
- First, assure your child that she is not stupid, lazy, or “bad”.
- Affirm that she is smart and she has great potential.
- It is important to let your child know that all children and adults have weaknesses.
- Talk about her strengths and let her know she has tremendous worth.
- Assure her that no one can take her place or do what she does well.
- Next, tell your child you understand why she has trouble learning,
- Educate her about her specific challenges utilizing age-appropriate books and materials.
- Finally, share how you plan to work with her educators address her difficulties
With the understanding and acceptance of her learning or attention challenges, a child frequently becomes less hard on herself emotionally and over time becomes tougher on herself to accomplish specific goals.
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