Here’s an example of modeling the problem solving process to your child. 1. Identify the Problem State the problem in a factual way and simplify if necessary. I forgot to mail the electric bill again this month. 2. Identify possible causes of the problem Identify a maximum of 5 possible causes. If possible, identify a primary […]
Model Good Problem Solving
In junior high or high school science we were all taught these steps in problem solving. Some of us still don’t consistently apply it. • Identify the Problem • Identify Possible Causes • Identify Possible Solutions • Identify the Best Solution. • Set Specific Goals to Solve Problems. Children learn by example: how YOU react […]
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Change, Change, Change
Change is hard! Change is tremendously difficult because it typically involves an immediate conflict before seeing the benefits of long-term growth. Some sages say the change results in conflict while others say conflict results in change. Who is right? Since I am such a “people pleaser” I suggest that both are correct! Besides, when I […]
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Two Questions and Two Tools
All parents should ask ourselves these two questions: What does my child hear or see when I make a mistake? What does my child hear or see when he makes a mistake? Based on our answers to these two questions, you and I need to figure out how we can become better models of learning from […]
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Help Your Child Understand His or Her Worth
Typically, the child with learning or attention problems is quite aware she has trouble with schoolwork. Children tend to “generalize” their challenges with school work to their overall abilities. So, even though a child may perform well on non-academic tasks, if she struggles with learning, she may make statements like, “I can’t do anything right!” […]
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Your Child’s Self Esteem
Self-esteem includes all feelings and thoughts a child has about his or her abilities and worth. Often, children base their self-esteem on their successes or failures. Children tend to compare their skills with the abilities of others. Their feelings about themselves are also based on family, teacher, and peer expectations. Self-esteem plays an important role […]
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The Flexiture Attitude
Flexible Structure is an attitude that can change how you see your child and how you help your child reach her fullest potential. It is an attitude that involves celebrating little successes each day. When your ADHD toddler finally focuses long enough to actually potty on the potty, have a party! Celebrate your nine-year-old finally […]
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Fearless Parenting
In his new book, Fearless, Max Lucado shares one of his most transparent personal stories in the chapter “My Child is in Danger: Fear of Not Protecting My Kids.” He also shares three New Testament stories demonstrating that when a parent prays, Christ responds. Max reminds us that God the Father understands hurting parents because His […]
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Fearless: Imagine Your Life Without Fear by Max Lucado
Fearless by Max Lucado is a timeless book that is quite timely. These days, so many of us have so many fears. Many fear the impact of the economy on our current livelihood and our future retirement. Some fear something horrible happening to our children, and others even fear “fear” itself. Fearless addresses our most […]
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A Step-wise Approach to Using Natural and Logical Consequences
Families often ask, “So, how do natural and logical consequences work in real-time?” Here’s a step-by-step example: 1. Consequences are proposed. When you have finished mowing the lawn, then you may go swimming. (Make sure swimming is something the teenager wants to do.) 2. You accept the child’s decision, follow through with consequences, and give […]
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Punishment vs. Natural and Logical Consequences
Families often ask, “What’s the difference between punishment and discipline using natural and logical consequences.” A few examples follow. Punishment expresses the parent’s authority. Logical consequences express choice. Example: TV blaring early Saturday. Punishment: Turn off the TV right now or you’re grounded from TV! Logical: Allison, I realize you enjoy watching TV early on […]
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Principles for Using Natural and Logical Consequences
I wish I could take credit for inventing natural and logical consequences. This parenting tool has been around a lot longer than I have, but I have seen its miraculous impact on families. Here are some key principles for making it work for you. Set your child up for success. Before using natural and logical […]
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