Final Thoughts about Social Skills

Becoming a socialized individual is a complex process. It is especially difficult for those with learning and attention difficulties.  Only the “medicine” of caring and responsible parents and teachers can transform lonely or unsocialized youngsters into involved, self-assured adults.  Teachers and parents are encouraged to go beyond the three R’s to help children overcome their […]

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Your Child Talking Too Much or Too Little?

Many children with attention challenges may talk constantly.  Incessant chatter may seem cute in a young child but as the child gets older it may be no longer acceptable to family and peers.  Teenagers often begin to resent an individual’s need to be in the verbal spot-light.  Some children may not watch what they say — […]

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Struggling with Expressions and Cliches?

Many children with language and learning problems may not understand the expressions we take for granted in everyday language.  They may take what people say literally. Sayings and expressions are often misinterpreted even through adulthood.  A child may hear “I wish he’d strop beating around the bush and tell me what he thinks”, and soon […]

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Has Your Child Ever Burst Your Ear Drum?

Mine did recently. Children with attention challenges often do not understand about voice volume and that different circumstances call for different levels of volume.  They may talk too loudly when in small gatherings and be seen as overly obnoxious and loud.  They may also talk too quietly when trying to speak to others who are […]

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Why Voice Inflection is Important

Children with attention,  language. and learning problems may not pick up on the subtle differences in voice inflection that change the meaning of what another is saying.  They themselves may not use voice inflection much and so they may not understand when others use it.  For example, changing the voice inflection to emphasize one word […]

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How to Help Your Child Say the Right Thing at the Right Time to the Right Person

Children with social problems may not understand their own social image: they may not understand how others view their behavior and actions.  An important part of social language involves a child’s ability to change the way they talk depending on who they are talking to and who they are with.  They may not understand that […]

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Manners in the classroom: A Dozen Teacher Pleasing Skills

Students with attention challenges often struggle to handle themselves in the classroom.  They benefit from learning treat teachers with respect with the knowledge that their teacher is there to help them.  Your child can be taught that when she is asked a question and she doesn’t know the answer, it is appropriate to  just simply say “I […]

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Eight Important Things to Teach about Body Language

 The child with attention challenges may struggle to understand when someone is confused by what he does.  He may miss the looks of misunderstanding on another’s face. Children can be taught a person’s body language is often more believable than verbal communication.  For example, if you ask someone “What’s wrong?”  If she shrugs her shoulders, […]

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Why Teach Social Language?

Speaking and understanding social language is another key aspect of fitting in socially.  Many youngsters have trouble using the right words in the right way.  When they talk, they don’t sound very “cool” to the other kids.  Often because they don’t recognize social feedback, they don’t realize that the way they talk is creating problems […]

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Manners Matter! : 11 Important Skills for Parties

Another key aspect of building friendships is using good manners at parties and in other social situations.  Some children don’t know how to act properly at a birthday party or other social gathering, but they can be taught.  Make a list of party-manners, discuss each one, then put them into practice.  Discuss poor manners and […]

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Putting it all together = Conversation

Conversation is the art of combining questions, active listening, and self disclosure in a way that people keep talking and enjoy it.  Children need to realize the key to conversation is give and take — not dominating the conversation and not simply holding back and listening — conversation is an active, participant sport in all […]

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Self-Disclosure Builds Friendships

Children need to know that self-disclosure makes friendships grow. Trying to achieve closeness without revealing something about themselves is like trying to hit a home run with a toothpick. They don’t have what it takes.

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